Chloe. Cis. she/her/hers
I'm no hero. I put my bra on one boob at a time like everyone else. BEFORE YOU PROCEED, PLEASE READ THE "READ ME FIRST" PAGE.
so grateful for my family of friends which has met me at every point in my messy, [figuring-myself-out & dealing with the fallout] process with validation and compassion. bless you all, friends.
Practice By Using the Following Phrases When the Opportunity Arrises:
"I’m not interested."
"(Please) Leave me alone."
"I’d rather you not."
"That doesn’t interest me at all."
"You need to stop."
"That’s not what I said."
"I don’t owe you/anyone an explanation."
"That’s too personal."
"I would like some privacy."
"That doesn’t work for me."
"I’d like to be by myself."
"I’m going to leave now."
These words and phrases might evoke thoughts of reacting to someone bringing unwanted sexual advances. But how can we expect girls and women to be able to say no in such extreme circumstances when we’ve been socialized to avoid confrontation in such “small” circumstances as when a man is talking us when we’d rather be left alone?
You can practice exercising and nurturing your assertiveness (and confidence) by incorporating phrases like this in your day-to-day life.
I was thinking of this today, because whenever any women had to leave the workshops to run to the restroom, they apologized, and also apologized before asking any questions. I noticed this and made it a point not to say “I’m sorry” before asking my question, and even then, it was so hard not to.
The Claddagh Ring:
- On the right hand with the point of the heart toward the fingertips, the wearer is single and may be looking for love.
- On the right hand with the point of the heart toward the wrist, the wearer is in a relationship (suggesting their heart has been “captured”).
- On the left hand with the point of the heart toward the fingertips, the wearer is engaged.
- On the left hand with the point of the heart toward the wrist, the wearer is married.
i am really bad at emotionally internalizing actual experiences bc like over the last few days a ton of people in my life have reached out, talked to me, listened, been understanding about what i was going through, and at the end of this whole experience all i want to do is spend hours imagining in detail all the ways everyone in my life must hate me
brain??? you are not being logical, my friend
trying to remember that this time last year i was super scared about the future to the point that i would dream about driving in a car that i was losing control of at least 2-3 times a week
so at least this is better than that